I have a teenage boy. He just turned fourteen two weeks ago and I’m actually quite surprised he made it to his fourteenth birthday, because honestly, I wasn’t sure he would. He drives me nuts. I’ve been told it only gets worse too. One friend told me to just wait until he turns fifteen. That’s when I really won’t like him. She said not to worry, though, once he turns twenty-five I’ll like him better. Wonderful. Just wonderful. Here’s the thing with this kid—he’s a bugger at home, pushing his boundaries, super messy, and likes to argue just for the sake or arguing: Him: Why did you put milk on my cereal? Me: Because you like milk on your cereal? Him: What makes you think that? Me: Because you had milk on your cereal for breakfast yesterday. Him: That was yesterday. You just don’t know me at all. But outside our house, everyone LOVES him! They think he is the greatest kid ever. Now, don’t get me wrong, as far as teenagers go, he’s pretty good one, but he can be SOOO annoying too. At home, he’s rude. Outside our home (school, church, scouts, friends), he’s a real gem of a guy. He even helps pick up after himself. He’s been known to carry dishes to the sink. What the heck? At home, he picks on his younger brother and sister ALL THE TIME. Outside our home, little kids adore him. They think he’s amazing and cool. They high-five him (my kids scream at him to stop touching them). At home, he is demanding. Outside our home, he has manners. He has been known to say please and thank you. He holds open doors for people. At home, he sulks and mopes around as though nothing in this world will ever make him happy. Outside our home, he is a ball of joy. I am the mother of a teenage son, so this is my lot in lot in life for the next six or so years (so I’ve been told). I look at him and think, “Who in their right mind is ever going to want to marry my son? He’s going to live with us forever, isn’t he?” But I must say, that at least when he steps outside our door, he knows how to behave and be a good kid. That has to mean something. When I first started writing my book, I was excited. It was cute. It was new and fun. I loved watching it grow and develop—like a toddler. I put my heart and soul into it and shaped it into being. Now, it’s acting just like a teenager. I’m in the editing/revising phase and this book is being a pain in my backside. Filling in plot holes and tweaking has become excruciatingly painful, especially the ending. The ending is mocking me. I only have twenty more pages to edit and rewrite (I’ve come a long way) and yet, for the past several days, the ending simply won’t come together. It’s as if my book has become a lanky teenage boy who has thrown himself over the couch, his big size eleven feet flopped over the armrest, sleeping the afternoon away. I nudge him. Nothing. I nudge him again. I get a moan before he rolls over, his back to me. Me: Come on. We need to write. My Novel: Not now. Later. Me: No, I want to write now. It’s a good time. You’re not doing anything. My Novel: I am doing something. I’m sleeping. Me: You’re always sleeping. My Novel: Yeah, well, I like sleeping. Me: Are you going to help me or what? My Novel: Tomorrow. I’ll help you tomorrow, okay? I promise. Me: You promised me that same thing yesterday. My Novel: This time I mean it. (My novel flashes me a peace sign). It needs to get done, because there is no such thing as a novel without an ending. AND there is no way I’m allowing the crappy ending that is there to just sit and taunt me. The ending will be fixed. It has too. I can make it better. Then, and only then, when I send it out into the world, I will hope it behaves itself, reading the way I always envisioned it would. No one will ever know the love, patience, and long suffering that went into the making of my book. They will never know how much I agonized over it or how much I lost sleep over it. No one will ever know—which is a good thing. I only want them to see the good stuff. Leave a comment and let me know how your novel is coming along? What roadblocks you’ve faced, what amazing hurdles you’ve jumped over. I’d love to know. Leave a comment and I’ll pop over and check out your site too.
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G. Aliceson
8/7/2011 01:12:55 pm
What a wonderful and creative post! I too have a wip with teenage boys. Twins even. I am a glutton. This past week my work and I have been fighting adolescence, but like you I am determined to come out on the other side with a well behaved adult. Good luck with both of your wip and your sip!
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8/7/2011 01:40:20 pm
I am laughing hysterically right now because I have a 14 year old son too and know exactly what you are talking about!(both about the teen boy and the novel) ;)
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8/8/2011 08:48:30 am
The sibling thing is easier to explain. With small children outside your home, you only see the cutsie side they display in public (so as not to embarrass their parents in front of others, 'tis scary when that happens). At home, you see their whiny side, the side that won't listen to you, the annoying won't be quiet side. And vice versa. I know this as a 14-year-old girl with a 9-year-old sister.
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8/9/2011 10:56:04 am
Great comparison Angela. I've got two of those teenage boys who I just adore, but that doesn't mean they don't do their fair share of annoying their little brother and sister and avoiding the housework. The problem is they make me laugh so much that they tend to get away with it, not a good thing when they've got your sense of humour worked out, all the power goes to them. Maybe it's the same with your novel, if you sneak in the back door, try and find something funny, something that unhinges things a bit, catches that lazy novel off guard, then maybe everything will fall into place? Endings can be a right pain in the butt. For me the answer has always been patience, being careful not to force anything, then, when you least expect it, the ending will come and it will be perfect. Good luck.
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Candice Green
8/9/2011 11:23:55 am
How true. I have been having problems getting through my edits and after reading this I think I know why. It makes me wonder if taking privileges away will work. Loved it!
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8/17/2011 01:25:53 am
Love this post! Especially where your novel flashes you a peace sign. From my experience, when the kids are good outside the home you are doing something right. Also 14 is the absolute worst year. 15 is better.
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8/18/2011 08:23:44 am
Hahaha; this post had me cracking up. My problem is slightly different thought: just a few weeks ago, I thought I was nearly finished with my novel, but it keeps on growing. Now I don't know how to stop it. I thought it would be 80K words, but it looks like it's going to get over 100K. I'll never get to the end if ideas and new subplots keep popping up in my head!
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8/25/2011 02:04:25 am
Love this post, it made me smile, I have a teenage SIP who's coming up to 15 (proof they can progress past 14!) and a WIP that seems to be stuck in the terrible two's.
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